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Kathleen M. Fey (nee Sestak), 74, of Glen Mills passed away on January 11, 2024. Kathy was a graduate of Cardinal O’Hara High School and the University of Pennsylvania where she spent her career as a university administrator. She was a selfless, loving, and caring individual who lived her life with charity and humility. Her greatest joy was seeing her family and friends happy, protected, and fulfilled.
Kathy loved creating memories and traditions with her nieces and nephews, sharing the fun of Halloween nights, the Thanksgiving Day Parade, Disney on Ice, special birthday outings, gardening while eating string beans, the most amazing strawberry cheesecake, competitive Easter egg hunts, New Year’s Eve parties, cartwheels on the grass, and teaching them to cook, knit and golf. She was loved by the professors and all the Mathematics Department, as one said, she was the welcoming glue that kept it all together.
Kathy, along with her husband Michael, the love of her life, organized the St. Agatha-St. James Christmas Market for many years, a very successful fundraiser for the church. Avid gardeners, every summer Kathy and Michael had a massive garden with gorgeous flowers and an endless supply of vegetables which they shared with others. They were members of the Pennsylvania Horticultural Society never missing the annual Philadelphia Flower Show and making it a family event with a corsage for each sister. Kathy and Michael were longtime members of Penn Oaks Club in West Chester and very active in club activities and competitions. They enjoyed traveling to play courses around the US, with Kapalua and Wailea in Maui being special highlights.
Kathy had a passion for entertaining and cooking. Meals at her house were always gourmet feasts prepared with all the latest cooking gadgets and lasting hours. Williams Sonoma was a favorite place to shop/browse. Her joy was creating a warm and comfortable environment for all to enjoy. She 'owned' the New Year's Eve celebration. She started the family tradition of an evening dinner celebration for all, followed with a night of fun and a niece and nephews’ special sleepover, and a special New Year's Day blueberry pancake breakfast. Her niece Alex earned (and wore) her chef's hat joining Kathy and Michael to host and cook for the New Year’s Eve celebration. Her nephews fondly remember this annual event, making them feel like they had a place to belong in the kitchen and teaching them how to love it.
Kathy was generous and kind-hearted, as her many nieces and nephews can attest, and birthdays were the mother lode. Kathy found joy in the happiness of others having joy in their lives. She loved sitting and chatting with her nieces and nephews to find out what was the latest happening in their lives and telling them how proud she and the family were in what they were doing. She always had a gentle spirit and a warm smile that made them feel comfortable, loved, and important. She would email her nieces on the west coast back and forth just to check in. When her great-niece Ellie was distraught about the holes in her purple blankie, Kathy was so gentle with blankie and explained to Ellie how to sew her blankie together.
Persistence was her middle name; kindness her first; understanding of others her last. She was an amazing wife, sister, aunt, daughter and individual.
Kathy is survived by her sisters Barbara, Ann, Elizabeth, Margaret and Patricia and her brother Joseph; predeceased by her husband Michael, her brother Richard, and her parents. Visitation will be held at Ruffenach Funeral Home from 6:00 to 8:00 pm on Wednesday, January 31st and 8:00 to 9:00 am Thursday, February 1st followed by a 10:00 am Mass at St. Kevin’s Church, Springfield. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to PA Horticultural Society or St. Jude Children’s Hospital.