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Michael F. Martin
June 17, 1960 - October 31, 2022
Michael would request his obituary be kept really simple, but, my love, my husband and best friend, on this I needed to include some details, some extra seasoning, that may not have been known or noticed.
Michael passed on 10/31/22, while at Jefferson Hospital. This was the end of a tumultuous 10 month battle with cirrhosis, prior to the liver transplant we hoped to reach in time. We are comforted that all discomfort and physical challenges are no longer, as he rests peacefully in God’s arms. He is missed already.
Michael was born and raised in Drexel Hill, PA. A graduate of Upper Darby High School (1978), Airforce veteran (Azures), and recent resident of Lansdowne, PA, where he has resided with wife, Kathy, of 23 years. We always regarded Michael as a true “Drexel Hillbilly” in the kindest manner. A retired carpenter as both self-employed and employed contractor, Michael could build, create or fix most all. But “fun projects” generally included recycled/upcycled vintage found treasures of which most anything might be brought home with great delight.
Michael was a simple man, not naïve, but rather intentional plain, uncomplicated simplicity. Always he was authentic, genuine and real. So while some may claim Michael was a cranky soul, it’s really being contrary. Contrary to the popular trends –as he always chose vintage craftsmanship in products, buildings and people, for the quaint, old-fangled nostalgia when truth and best quality was expected. A learner of history, Michael’s nostalgic nature connected with his preference for common knowledge, quirky one-liners and simpler times. So while contrary, he remained genuine.
Michael was ever grateful, that unlike many, he was unafraid of his emotions –especially love. A heart of unpolished pewter, Michael deeply loved his 2 children, daughter Jacqui and son Michael, with perhaps a bit of boasting pride for the fine adults they have become. And, those 3 grandkids, he was unabashedly over the moon with love of Nico, Sonny, and newly added Giada (Gia). It is true sometimes this simple man was downright childish in the presence of these precious little ones. So grateful for every moment, for which, apparently, too many pictures could not be taken.
Michael’s simple pleasures included pizza, at any time, preferred as a slice on the Boardwalk at OCNJ, while leaning his bike and enjoying the many times he spent summers and off-season due to the blessings of the Martin shore home, for 30 plus years, and the continued love for this town. As many of the area, Michael was a Phillies fan and regretfully missed their World Series games of the current challenge. Bowling and Wii-bowling later, from his under-deck patio setup well fit his uncomplicated style. Music tastes, however, were far more broad reaching, likely shaped by his father’s Big Band enjoyment and great classic rock from the 60s – 80s, due to a sibling or two for every decade. Yep, Michael was fully surrounded by sisters and older brother, shaping music tastes and humor, too. His humor style carried through Michael’s life, even the roller-coaster struggle with cirrhosis’ battle on his body, when to the ICU doctor, speaking slowly and loudly, he said “Please stop shouting. It’s not my hearing that’s an issue, but my breathing”. This simple, genuine, authentic man will be missed by family and friends. So, abiding by his wishes, I leave you with a favorite of his: “I tried to throw a yo-yo away. It was impossible.”(Mitch Hedberg) May Michael’s memory, be so connected to us, with a smile.
Michael is survived by wife Kathy (nee Tobin), daughter Jacqueline (Anthony) Fenza, son Michael C. Martin (Kate Balon), grandchildren Nico Anthony Fenza, Sonny James Fenza, Giada Marie Fenza. Mother Eileen D. Martin, siblings Linda (Dusty) Hidey, Robert (Joan) Martin, Diane (Daniel) Wilson, Susan (Matthew) Mingey, Sandra (Paul) Gamble and Eileen (John) Green, 28 nieces and nephews and 23 great nieces and nephews. Predeceased by sister Karen E. Merlino and father Robert A. Martin.
Relatives and friends are welcome to celebrate Michael’s life: Thursday 11/10/2022 from 9 am – 12 pm at Ruffenach Funeral Home, 4900 Townshipline Rd, Drexel Hill, PA, 19026.
In lieu of flowers, it is requested for those who wish to show their condolences to make a donation in Michael Martin’s name to:
American Liver Foundation,
Wounded Warrior Project,
Thomas Jefferson University Hospital